singledom and v-day...

being single for a good 25 years and 2 months of my life is, well, not such a big deal for me. you know what they say, you don't know what you're missing until you've been there. so no, i don't have any of those lovey-dovey or heartbreak experiences. but i do know a thing or two about celebrating v-day in the land of singledom. lol!!

i suppose if you've been in love before, then v-day would be a lot hard to go through without the beloved significant other. i mean seriously, couples are at large everywhere you turn your head. but then again, times have changed and these days it isn't just about the love between boy-girl or man-woman. valentine's has evolved into a celebration of love in all it's glory. this current era of v-day celebrations has even engaged card makers to produce v-day cards for sisters, parents, uncles, aunts, grandparents, friends -- you name it. so there's really no reason to not celebrate.

for those of you interested to know more about the history of valentine's day, click here.

now here's what i think. a display of the appreciation of love towards the people around you shouldn't be dependent on that one day of the year. love is developed and nurtured through time and pooling all that effort into one day is just not sufficient to show how much you care. after all, it's just one day.

so it doesn't matter if you're single or in a relationship, valentine's is just a day. if you want to celebrate and appreciate 'love' in every sense of the word, you have 365 (or 366) days in a year to do that. if you care about someone, anyone at all, i believe that those random acts of kindness and TLC can happen anytime, anyday. don't wait until it's too late to tell someone you care for them. if you're the type who just can't find the right words to express your emotions, there's no need to say it with words. like they say, action speaks louder than words. at times, even words lie. just remember that even small gestures of compassion can go a long way.

don't get me wrong. it's not that i've never been in love (or at least that's what i'll call it for the purpose of this text). i was once smitten with a guy and found myself dumb enough to sit alone in a corner of a bookstore, book in hand, glancing at other couples sprinkled all over the mall with the hopes and faith that he hadn't forgotten he'd asked me out just a few days earlier thinking it would be my first v-day experience. luck has it, i almost cried then and there because he seemed to have no recollection of it (not that i asked directly) at all. realizing my stupidity, the subsequent v-days, i've never waited for anyone to sashay into my life and supposedly to light up my being. why waste time on something like that? if you're gonna love me, be there for me whole heartedly as i would for you. otherwise, don't waste my time and yours.

as much as it puzzles me how some people can move on from one person to the next with what seems to be such ease, going from one mad love to another, i've been more reserved. somewhat conservative i suppose. if you know me, you'll know what i mean. *winks* anyways... the lovey-dovey kind of love can be confusing and sometimes misleading. although i know my friends are eagerly waiting for me to announce my debut into coupledom, i've still not met "the ONE" (if that's what you call them). haha. don't worry. i still have faith that i won't be single forever. lol!!!

so here's another interesting twist to february 14. i've come to know that some have also fondly referred it to as single's awareness day. a lot of magazine publications these days are featuring fun things to do for those sans their significant other. so if you're single or have just recently joined the team, don't fret. embrace the day like any other. it's not the end of the world. like i said, there are 8,760 (or 8,784) hours in a year (inclusive of sleep) to appreciate and love the important people in your life and to remember those who have passed.

so what did i do today? let's just say i had a good much needed rest and while my parents and brother was out celebrating v-day, i was home with some burger king take-away with my two baby bros sitting in the living room happily munching and laughing away at george of the dragon.

to everyone, have a happy valentine's and single's awareness day!